Soul V

In real life there are always some girls, in the same eyes, their spirit, education, income and ability is above the average, is recognized as a " good girl ", but no " luck with the opposite sex ". Some wives, almost can obtain all recognition in the appearance, character, china tin box except their husbands.

After exposure to so many women, many female fans as " male close friend " emotional columnist Ceng Xiaoliang, finally began to break the " good girl ", " good woman" spell, to give confidential instructions in person: women will make a little bit of " bad" is the most beautiful girl.

" Bad " is the spice of life

Note: " good girl will make " bad " " the title itself has attracted a lot of female readers, you so-called " good girl ", with the general sense of the good girl, what is different?

Zeng: a man standing position, I wrote an article, that is why we don't love some female doctor, because they always feel stiff end there. Note, there is, I'm not saying all female doctor this. I know a very senior traditional magazine editor, I rarely see her wearing bright clothes, very rare she boldly and laughing, she kind of aura, is not only a man, even the isotropic with her will feel a bit depressed. But she is really a general sense of the good girl, education, occupation, income and good good good, nice, but you are not to take the initiative to close to her.

In the process of writing emotion 's column, I received many letters from female readers, and listening to the surrounding lots not married female friends. From their confusion, I found a very common phenomenon, biscuit tin box is a general sense of " good girl ", to live well, almost all the men and women " good girl ", there is a big difference.

The cause of this difference is the most important, is the education. Our traditional education tend to take the girl into stiff, boring, obedient, and thus there is no style. The girl was education, good girl must be dignified, reserved, lady, conservative, those bold, just behavior is to be looked down upon. These consequences of education is, first, the girl will give you some idea and behavior of the bound, with the boy along especially nervous; second, her nature is repressed, inner cute is not released. Of course, women's style, with her level of education is not inversely, there are adorable female doctor, how key her personal creation.

Reporter: how to understand what you say " bad "? There is a saying: not a bad man, a woman doesn't love.

Zeng: this "bad ", in other words, there is a taste of life. In the real life and literary works, " bad man " indeed inviting women love, especially for a general sense of " good girl " love, because they can break the good girl stereotype, stimulate the inherent vitality girl, let the girl think: so also can be life, again good also not candy so sweet! Pure girl met dandy, thus embarked on the road of no return, tin box for food is the fixed routine many literary works. We are familiar with the " Paradise Lost " is a typical. Of course, school boy met a wild rose, is another routine.

I encourage girls to learn how to make a " bad ", because, good girls tend to hope for a bad guy to ignite your inner flame, and will make the " bad " girl you have this ability, which is not so easy to be bad men tease. Not all men can answer style, if a good girl met a stupid man, her sexual relations will become very boring.

Fashion is " strong outlook on life "

Note: in addition to the influence of traditional education to women, now there is another modern, fashionable, even edgy female advocates or trend, look at how the interaction between the two?

Zeng: at present, education and new trend of superposition of the old, will make many women feel confusion and anxiety. One side is their nature, one is the traditional education, is a modern idea, these effects on a woman get harmonious, this is a question. For example, a boy said to the girl: if you love me, we live together. But the girl is not mentally prepared, and think this is against the traditional education, but the boy advised her: what are the times, everybody like this, how can you be so conservative?

One of my female readers on the face of such confusion. I gave her the letter said, first of all to stick to their principles. If a boy asked you must follow his way, give up your standards, that he don't love you enough, at least, do not know how to love you.

I in " good girl will make " bad " " also wrote, the real fashion always there are some standard: the firm 's outlook on life, the harmonious world, the people have their own views on the matter, and is used to bear the responsibility of life. Mark to judge whether to have sex with a man and not the so-called avant-garde, but whether you love that person? You ready? They will not hurt in this relationship? If you are ready, you will accept him, this has nothing to do with the avant-garde; if not ready, you refused him properly, this also and conservative.

Life is a soundless and stirless hallucinations, wake up, at the time of flow through the gap, I think again of those as far distant memories. Perhaps everyone has a city, lies the dowager, there is a story of their own, their own landscape, far or near, or joy or sorrow, then choose forgotten or burial.

October flowers there has been no spring in a riot of colour posture, shallow sing in the autumn season, memory is like breeze hit with the lonely atmosphere swaying reflection branches, leaves the vertical fall back with a sentimental old melodies, count the lonely flavor, as long-buried time, a a sense of nostalgia in heart, in the prime if occult flourishing backside, in the life of the thin cool song Road, we think the story, from the beginning to start like a mirage as with no reality whatever, as the acme of perfection.

The dark night engulfed the distant dream, cold air over be reduced to fragments imaginary ever poured into the thin clothes, shuddering. Gu attitude to think, heart emerges mind is the water ripple, a ring two ring swings, leisurely read quietly, refraction glittering halo in the ear. Seeing the reach but cannot touch. It seems that this long boundless dream also decreed by fate, I should know the ending, I have been comforted myself not too sad, maybe sadness is inevitable. Look at this silent night, do not want to tears dripping wet hair, smile face.

Tired of the secular way, with the gentle breeze and bright moon leisure, wanted to try hard to get used to life's turning, for too many unfamiliar, such as heart stacked memories of you, always on time silhouettes finally could not help but panic and worry, a touch of melancholy always hide in the deep place, sometimes, occasionally at a casual moment overflow, the sadness is no farewell, memories are always placed No.

Like an hourglass as time passes, the fragrance of flowers in the garden of memory, from the fuzzy imprint, trying to lament the story better still wander in reincarnation, past the dust raised, so I learned in the silence of night and day to his lonely shadow, P. g Bellah Naga Koai prelude, staggered back to the original one cry one smile desolate region.

Sometimes think among people of fate really is very shallow, from the beginning of the meet, know, talk about, to the final pass only silence, as a broken line kites, where it is swaying, finally broken down. Nalanrongruo one word, only if the first sign of life, but the autumn sad fan paintings, yeah, people like the first meeting as a beautiful, will not have the autumn moon low sigh of sorrow.

I confess I love nostalgia, as I like classical, poetry and art, the tea liquor, also had learned the ancients in the so-so. Find the light, elegant. Although I know has not adapted to the modern life the past thousands of years. For once the lover who, together, together with the movie, tell each other the passions of the heart, don't know why, every time I think once this two characters, always can't help my heartache.

When I was born, my life is the most happy day. So, I was died, is also in my life the happiest day. When you were born, I'm happy to meet the person world challenge. Far away, I am happy to see me off people to make a qualified and perfect life. This should not be a happy thing!

Talk about death, quare meters will talk about the students. Life and death is a kind of state, the state of reincarnation completed the world the new supersedes the old. In your life, there is death, generation and this nature flower is a reason. In the face of death, should be what kind of attitude? Life and death as Andante hurried, travel, parting pier, off of people streams of people busily coming and going, the acquisition then journey is always alone. Alone, it is static self enjoy a happy time. Enjoy the happy time, aware of the life and death is a pair of twin brothers, is that every life has irresistible law of nature. In life's long road trip, and we always follow shadow of death. Sometimes we think death is far away from us, industry chain sometimes I feel death and we be close by. The actual life and death, with and without, is dialectical unity. In this world, every day there are a lot of people are helpless to face death, anyone in the face of death without privilege.

35 years ago, to the death, I'm over and over again to escape, because at that time I did not dare to face it. I am afraid, I fear, I fear the pain of lost loved ones, I fear it 's tragic scene. I think I still small, my heart still can't stand the terrible things. However, be in this year, let me repeatedly escape tragedy happened. Teach me " Liaozhai ", teach me to play the abacus, teach me dumpling peel grandfather forever gone. Grandpa left, whenever I call abacus time, Plus Ryle reminded of dear grandpa. Sometimes with abacus daze. At this time, my father would tell me: " girl, don't miss grandpa. Dying is unusual in this life, people often encounter these things. Let's go in peace of mind! As long as your abacus played well, Grandpa will be pleased. " I did not live up to the hope Grandpa, in a number of national and regional abacus competition took the prize. After winning every time, I will be holding a certificate of award and I took the abacus to grandfather's grave worship. I think: Grandpa will be happy for me!

My grandpa died, let me know what is losing his pain. 25 years ago, my mother died when I was holding my hand and said; " I'm sick these years, keeping you and your father, if I again ' past ', don't wake me up, let me go, then I Distributed PV will be happy, because I no longer suffer, not wake me up ... ... " Mothers in these words, and again into a coma. This time the mother never wake up. 15 years ago, one of my life unforgettable friend on his deathbed said to me: " I leave, as quietly as I came here. Don't cry, death is the nature of the last fair. " 31 months ago, my father died when said: "girl, you own so rest assured father; you filial piety, let father thanks; daddy's gone, no worries. Very happy, because you are such a filial daughter, contented! "

Grandpa passed away, the mother went away, friend, father is gone, there will still be loved ones left me. Relatives of the dead, let me feel losing his pain, I also deeply understand many principles of life. Life is life in the process of law, since death is unable to avoid, don't be afraid of the face, and be open-minded frankly to face. Life and death, like a sunrise and sunset. The sunset is the sun is on the horizon disappears, it will never disappear; sunrise rumors is the rising sun is on the horizon, which itself is always hanging in the air. After too many memories, I like Xu Zhimo's poem " farewell to Cambridge Again " and Bi Shumin's " save " breast. A beautiful lyric poem, like a graceful pleasant light music. A book relating to love, marriage, career, life and other aspects, but most the problem of core or around the " death " of the novel unfolds.

Love drama, can say every play a must-see. When a play is over, see the actors successful curtain call, the audience applauded warmly smile, actor to leave the stage. I would like to: life is like a play, drama is like life, as long as we live wonderful, with actor curtain is the same! Why not smile leaving the life of the stage? Reflection, life " to ", is a man cried " come", and meet new people. Everyone is happy with life; "go ", is a smile " go", and to persons off everybody is suffering. The reason people seem to understand, but really encountered this kind of things, but not easy to deal with. The moon is bright or dim and she may wax or wane. Men have sorrow and joy; they part or meet again; there has been nothing perfect since the olden days. Is a kind of realm!

Listen for life, to read a book. After too many memories, I am not afraid of death, because I have come to understand the meaning of death. I want to give my love a sincere caring love, I will try to go into his heart, because in this world, only communication is the most effective love password. In each person can experience illness and death when, just hope to the most real, the most direct feelings and attitude to face, to overcome the want to escape the idea, so, the mind may not unbalance. In the experience of all this, experienced hurt, sadness, despair, will find life sentiment and Enlightenment has been in his heart turn on the lights, will calm, calm in the face of this course of life.

Buddhism has the cloud: I don't want to live, and live; I don't want to die, and die to. Death and birth, is unable to choose. Dull life, free to come and go. Shun Shun margin, where is not true? Death, is not fearful, " death is the final stage of our growth ", only when you face it, you'll find out to what will be will be, as long as we can finally die happy, no regret is enough. Death is not painful, but to stay happy. Special times, specific environment, different state of mind, death, is also a kind of happiness. Lev. Tolstoy said: the good life only to face death, will become serious, pregnancy, really rich and happy!

Will not benefit by mutual discussion people, is not a sensible person, regardless of what to do; not good at listening to a friend 's advice, is a self-willed people, after all, success can not do; if everything listens to others' opinions, without the slightest their main man, also cannot dosomethinpreviouslyunreleased. Practice proves the conclusion: listen to the opinions of the majority, and a handful of people to discuss, make their own decisions, by numerous and Jane is closer to the truth.

Modest, is emptied himself, can't be opinionated, to be willing to listen to and accept the opinions of others; open-minded, is reduced, not superior, arrogant, also is not to take yourself too seriously; to reduce their not humble, not inferior, than who base, but a man is a kind of manner a generous, more is a person's character.

We live in a colorful world, in this world not only has beautiful scenery, also have different personalities, different quality, different personality charm of the people. In the long way of life, you will meet many people know, different people have different quality and charm, enjoy, love and love, became our most difficult to grasp the scale.

Good people will distract attractive luster, he not only attracts you, also attracts and you also have an appreciation of the people. Just like the beautiful scenery, it exists not to a mountain, wilderness, but to the whole of nature, to adorn the beautiful world, is to let more people to appreciate, to taste, to intoxicated.

When you are in a normal state of mind to know a person, make a person's time, you will have some personal thoughts, you can free intercourse, heart will be a little blend, a true friend will be in your appreciation to you. Friendship is also indispensable to life things, you really have a lot of friends when, you will feel the joy of life.

Have a good friend, than to have a relationship to plain, in life, every intention of investment is one kind of injury. The friend is different, you can have a friend at the same time to appreciate the human nature, the beauty of the truth. Friendship is also a kind of love, a more noble and more sincere love.

With a tolerant heart to enjoy the advantages of each one, you'll find out the world is very beautiful, very bright sunshine, your heart will be bright, the sky you will be blue.