In real life
there are always some girls, in the same eyes, their spirit,
education, income and ability is above the average, is recognized
as a " good girl ", but no " luck with the opposite sex ". Some
wives, almost can obtain all recognition in the appearance,
character, china tin
box except their husbands.
After exposure to so many women, many female fans as " male
close friend " emotional columnist Ceng Xiaoliang, finally began to
break the " good girl ", " good woman" spell, to give confidential
instructions in person: women will make a little bit of " bad" is
the most beautiful girl.
" Bad " is the spice of life
Note: " good girl will make " bad " " the title itself has
attracted a lot of female readers, you so-called " good girl ",
with the general sense of the good girl, what is different?
Zeng: a man standing position, I wrote an article, that is why
we don't love some female doctor, because they always feel stiff
end there. Note, there is, I'm not saying all female doctor this. I
know a very senior traditional magazine editor, I rarely see her
wearing bright clothes, very rare she boldly and laughing, she kind
of aura, is not only a man, even the isotropic with her will feel a
bit depressed. But she is really a general sense of the good girl,
education, occupation, income and good good good, nice, but you are
not to take the initiative to close to her.
In the process of writing emotion 's column, I received many
letters from female readers, and listening to the surrounding lots
not married female friends. From their confusion, I found a very
common phenomenon, biscuit
tin box is a general sense of " good girl ", to live well,
almost all the men and women " good girl ", there is a big
The cause of this difference is the most important, is the
education. Our traditional education tend to take the girl into
stiff, boring, obedient, and thus there is no style. The girl was
education, good girl must be dignified, reserved, lady,
conservative, those bold, just behavior is to be looked down upon.
These consequences of education is, first, the girl will give you
some idea and behavior of the bound, with the boy along especially
nervous; second, her nature is repressed, inner cute is not
released. Of course, women's style, with her level of education is
not inversely, there are adorable female doctor, how key her
Reporter: how to understand what you say " bad "? There is a
saying: not a bad man, a woman doesn't love.
Zeng: this "bad ", in other words, there is a taste of life. In
the real life and literary works, " bad man " indeed inviting women
love, especially for a general sense of " good girl " love, because
they can break the good girl stereotype, stimulate the inherent
vitality girl, let the girl think: so also can be life, again good
also not candy so sweet! Pure girl met dandy, thus embarked on the
road of no return, tin box for
food is the fixed routine many literary works. We are familiar
with the " Paradise Lost " is a typical. Of course, school boy met
a wild rose, is another routine.
I encourage girls to learn how to make a " bad ", because, good
girls tend to hope for a bad guy to ignite your inner flame, and
will make the " bad " girl you have this ability, which is not so
easy to be bad men tease. Not all men can answer style, if a good
girl met a stupid man, her sexual relations will become very
Fashion is " strong outlook on life "
Note: in addition to the influence of traditional education to
women, now there is another modern, fashionable, even edgy female
advocates or trend, look at how the interaction between the
Zeng: at present, education and new trend of superposition of
the old, will make many women feel confusion and anxiety. One side
is their nature, one is the traditional education, is a modern
idea, these effects on a woman get harmonious, this is a question.
For example, a boy said to the girl: if you love me, we live
together. But the girl is not mentally prepared, and think this is
against the traditional education, but the boy advised her: what
are the times, everybody like this, how can you be so
One of my female readers on the face of such confusion. I gave
her the letter said, first of all to stick to their principles. If
a boy asked you must follow his way, give up your standards, that
he don't love you enough, at least, do not know how to love
I in " good girl will make " bad " " also wrote, the real
fashion always there are some standard: the firm 's outlook on
life, the harmonious world, the people have their own views on the
matter, and is used to bear the responsibility of life. Mark to
judge whether to have sex with a man and not the so-called
avant-garde, but whether you love that person? You ready? They will
not hurt in this relationship? If you are ready, you will accept
him, this has nothing to do with the avant-garde; if not ready, you
refused him properly, this also and conservative.